- Is your partner truly saved? Our generation preaches salvation without conversion/repentance because of the subject of grace. This question is very important because you’re about to commit your destiny into the hands of that person.
- Is your partner God-fearing and committed or is he/she just a church-goer?
- Are you both really compatible? Amos 3:3 – there should be a level of agreement and connection between you. You must be compatible in your soul (thinking and beliefs), spirit (faith beliefs), purpose and body (sex related matters etc.)
- Is your partner really good for you? Is he/she the right person for you. Before you conclude about somebody, don’t have body connection yet so that you can hear clearly from God.
- Is he wise and intelligent? At some point, you and your partner will need to converse with others in public or at gatherings, is he/she capable of this?
- Can you love him/her for life? Can you love that shape for life?
- How long has he/she been saved? You should know this.
- Are you sure of God’s approval? Approvals you need to get – a. Parental, b. God’s, c. Self. Do not let anyone force anyone on you, you must self approve who you’re going to be with.
- Do you know his/her strengths and weaknesses? You both must compliment each other.
- Do you know what you really want in a relationship? Ask what your partner wants in marriage – some just want trophy wives, money etc.
- Does he or she have the qualities you cannot do without? What are those things in the person you haven’t found in others and you can’t do without.
- Can he/she complement your purpose and vision in life?
- Do you both have a vision and purpose? Body contribution is cheap, vision contribution is priceless!
- Can you proudly introduce him or her?
- Is he/she rigid or flexible?
- Do you relate to each other as friends? This is the only way to keep your marriage going.
- Do you accept his/her friends as your friends?
- Are your Genotypes compatible?
- What’s his/her HIV status?
- Are you both drug free? Does he/she have a drug problem?
- Are you both alcohol free?
- Are you both medically fit and free from terminal diseases?
- Are you genuinely attracted to each other or just lusting after each other?
- Do you have a regular source of income?
- What is the foundation of your relationship? Lies, sex, pity, money?
- Do you spend quality time communicating with each other?
- What does your parents and pastors think about your relationship?
- What kind of reputation does your partner have?
- How does your partner relate with your friends?
- Do you both understand what love really is?
- How often do you discuss sexual matters?
- What level of education threatens your partner?
- Have you had series of arguments or fights? Have they led to violence?
- Do you know your spouse’s doctrinal belief?
- What kind of home is he/she from?
- How does he/she value spiritual matters?
- Is he proud of you in public?
- What’s the history of cheating in your relationship?
- How do you settle disputes?
- What can you say about your temperament?
- Does he get angry easily?
- How were you treated during times of sicknesses and weaknesses?
- Has he ever invested in your business or life?
- How often does he/she give to you?
- How often does he/she demand for sex?
- What’s your spouse’s love language?
- How do you feel around them both in public and in private?
- Is your spouse lazy or hardworking?
- Does your spouse respect or disrespect his/her parents?
- Have you met his/her family members?
- Were you accepted or rejected by the family members?
- Have you taken time to pray against negative family records?
- How often do you go for counseling? Even in marriage.
- Is there any hidden secret your spouse needs to know about you before you get married? Reveal any likely problematic secrets when the relationship is looking serious.
- Have you discussed the number of kids and where to live after marriage?
- What about same purse and financing the home?
- Will he allow you to work or permanently be an housewife?
- Can you really cope with his/her excessive nature and weaknesses?
- Can you really prefer him or her to any one else?
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